SELF-CONFIDENCE FORMULA
First. I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my Definite Purpose in life, therefore, I DEMAND of myself persistent, continuous action toward its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action. Second. I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, therefore, I will concentrate my thoughts for thirty minutes daily, upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture of that person. Third. I know through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of attaining the object back of it, therefore, I will devote ten minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of SELF-CONFIDENCE. Fourth. I have clearly written down a description of my DEFINITE CHIEF AIM in life, and I will never stop trying, until I shall have developed sufficient self-confidence for its attainment. Fifth. I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure, unless built upon truth and justice, therefore, I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people. I will induce others to serve me, because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism, by developing love for all humanity, because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me, because I will believe in them, and in myself. I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory, and repeat it aloud once a day, with full FAITH that it will gradually influence my THOUGHTS and ACTIONS so that I will become a self-reliant, and successful person. Date Print Name Signature
Decision Making
There is a single mental move you can make which, in a millisecond, will solve enormous problems for you. It has the potential to improve almost any personal or business situation you will ever encounter … and it could literally propel you down the path to incredible success. We have a name for this magic mental activity … it is called DECISION. Decisions, or the lack of them, are responsible for the breaking or making of many a career. Individuals who have become very proficient at making decisions, without being influenced by the opinions of others, are the same people whose annual incomes fall into the six and seven figure category. However, it’s not just your income that is affected by decisions; your whole life is dominated by this power. The health of your mind and body, the well being of your family, your social life, the type of relationships you develop … all are dependent upon your ability to make sound decisions. You would think anything as important as decision making, when it has such far reaching power would be taught in every school, but it is not. To compound the problem, not only is decision-making missing from the curriculum of our educational institutions, up until recently it’s also been absent from most of the corporate training and human resource programs available. So, how is a person expected to develop this mental ability? Quite simply, you must do it on your own. However, I think it’s important to understand that it’s not difficult to learn how to make wise decisions. Armed with the proper information and by subjecting yourself to certain disciplines, you can become a very effective decision maker. You can virtually eliminate conflict and confusion in your life by becoming proficient at making decisions. Decision-making brings order to your mind, and of course, this order is then reflected in your objective world … your results. James Allen may have been thinking of decisions when he wrote, We think in secret and it comes to pass. Environment is but our looking glass. JAMES ALLEN No one can see you making decisions but they will almost always see the results of your decisions. The person who fails to develop their ability to make decisions is doomed because indecision sets up internal conflicts which can, without warning, escalate into all out mental and emotional wars. Psychiatrists have a name to describe these internal wars, it is ambivalence. My Oxford Dictionary tells me that ambivalence is the co-existence in one person of opposite feelings toward the same objective. You do not require a doctorate degree in psychiatry to understand that you are going to have difficulty in your life by permitting your mind to remain in an ambivalent state for any period of time. The person who does permit it to exist will become very despondent and virtually incapable of any type of productive activity. It is obvious that anyone who finds themselves in such a mental state is not living; at best, they are merely existing. A decision or a series of decisions would change everything. A very basic law of the universe is “create or disintegrate”. Indecision causes disintegration. How often have you heard a person say, “I don’t know what to do.” How often have you heard yourself say, “What should I do?” Think about some of the indecisive feelings you and virtually everyone on this planet experience from time to time. Everyone, on occasion, has experienced these feelings of ambivalence. If it happens to you frequently, decide right now to stop it. The cause of ambivalence is indecision, but we must keep in mind that the truth is not always in the appearance of things. Indecision is a cause of ambivalence, however it is a secondary cause, it is not the primary cause. I have been studying the behavior of people who have become very proficient at making decisions for over a quarter century. They all have one thing in common. They have a very strong self-image, a high degree of self-esteem. They may be as different as night is to day in numerous other respects, but they certainly possess confidence. Low self-esteem or a lack of confidence is the real culprit here. Decision makers are not afraid of making an error. If and when they make an error in their decision, or fail at something, they have the ability to shrug it off. They learn from the experience but they will never submit to the failure. Successful people make decisions quickly and firmly. Unsuccessful people make decisions slowly, and they change them often. -Napoleon Hill Every decision maker was either fortunate enough to have been raised in an environment where decision-making was a part of their upbringing, or they developed the ability themselves at a later date. They are aware of something that everyone, who hopes to live a full life, must understand: Decision-making is something you cannot avoid. That is the cardinal principle of decision-making. DECIDE RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE WITH WHATEVER YOU’VE GOT. This is precisely why most people never master this important aspect of life. They permit their resources to dictate if and when a decision will or can be made. When John Kennedy asked Werner Von Braun what it would take to build a rocket that would carry a man to the moon and return him safely to earth, his answer was simple and direct. “The will to do it.” President Kennedy never asked if it was possible. He never asked if they could afford it or any one of a thousand other questions, all of which would have … at that time … been valid questions. President Kennedy made a decision … he said, we will put a man on the moon and return him safely to earth before the end of the decade. The fact that it had never been done before in all the hundreds of thousands of years of human history was not even a consideration. He DECIDED
7 Affirmations to Ramp Up Your Self-Image
Do you know you have an image of yourself locked inside your subconscious mind? While your physical body and appearance are important, it’s this image—the inner image—that really counts. This is the image that determines your success or failure in life. Life as a phenomenal experience The real you is perfect, boundless and is always looking for ways to expand. If your inner or self-image reflected this beautiful truth, your life would be EXTRAORDINARY. But is that really possible? Perhaps. One could argue that people like Jesus, Gandhi and Mother Theresa had a self-image that reflected their true self. But you don’t need a “perfect” self-image to live a more fulfilling and bountiful life. Just having a more positive self-image than you have now is enough to take your life to a new level. There are many benefits of improving your self-image. Below are just a few. Succeed More Even though it means something different for each person, every human being wants to succeed. Success means winning in the ways that are meaningful to you. When you improve your self-image, you believe in yourself more, you think big, and you do big things. Improve Health People who have a positive self-image are less stressed out—all things being equal. Even when they come across stressful situations, their attitude gets them through it much quicker than those who have a more negative impression of themselves. When there is less stress in your life, you will naturally be healthier than those who constantly react to outside circumstances, allowing those circumstances to stress them out. Enjoy Better Relationships People gravitate towards positive people, even if it is on a subconscious level. It simply feels better to speak to and be involved with people who think lovingly and highly of themselves. You gain more friends, establish loving and lasting relationships and attract upbeat, motivated and successful people into your life. Get More Done People with a winner’s image don’t just think and talk about things; they act on their ideas. They’re self-starters. They follow through. They get results. When you have a positive self-image, you are more likely to find ways that work rather than looking for reasons why they won’t. And if something doesn’t work the way you wanted, you have the right outlook to try something else without getting discouraged. Use Goals to Grow People with a positive self-image don’t leave their future to chance. They form an image of the person they want to be 5 or 10 years from now—and then they set goals that will allow them to grow into that image. They realize that without doing so, they will get lost in life’s shuffle and never grow. On the other hand… If the image in your subconscious mind is based on false and limited information, it will set boundaries for every area of your life. So, if you see yourself as shy, not good enough, or unlovable, you will feel and act accordingly. And that will create poor, unwanted or limited results in your outer world that reflect the image you have in your mind. Even if you promise yourself that you’re going to do better, you will not deviate from your pattern. And if you do manage to change, it won’t last long because your self-image is like a thermostat that limits how high or low you can go. Fortunately, you can change your self-image. It takes commitment and practice; however, you can do it. And when you do, your whole life will change. A powerful way to get started is by using affirmations. “Everyone is drawn to my self-confidence.” Some people say affirmations don’t work. But the truth is, every thought you think, and every word you speak is an affirmation. If you affirm something often enough—whether it’s positive or negative, it will show up in your life. You can look up or create positive affirmations and use them to change your self-image. Words have a very strong effect on the subconscious mind so if you create your own affirmations, choose your words wisely and make the statement relatively short and simple. Because, although the subconscious mind is extremely powerful, it perceives things in a very straightforward way. Also, read your affirmation with as much belief and emotion as you can. Emotion is extremely powerful because it raises your vibrational state and makes the attraction process much faster and more efficient. And, of course, you should repeat it often to prime your mind for maximum success. To get you started, here are seven powerful affirmations you can use to ramp up your self-image: I am so happy and grateful now that… Can affirmations really change your life? Affirmations can have a significant impact on our overall quality of life. Repeating them regularly with feeling allows us to become more in tune with the person we want to be. One positive thought can set you on the path to a dramatic and miraculous change. So, while I encourage you to use the affirmations above, I hope you will also search your heart for an idea or thought that would have a significant impact on your life and the way you see yourself. The most important and longest-lasting relationship you can ever develop is the one with yourself. Never forget… It’s not the words that come out of your mouth that determine your life; it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power. So, cultivate the relationship you have with yourself—nourish it with every possible positive thought, so you can think, be, and act differently and achieve everything you’ve always wanted.